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TOUGH LOVE (Patreon)

Published:
2025-09-03 23:00:25
Imported:
2026-06

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Hi Shartianas!

We have a guest coming on the podcast who is FAMOUS for their tough love. Do you have any advice questions that need some tough love answers? Please comment them below and you might be shouted out on the pod!

Comments

Crista

I need serious help getting unstuck. I've been in some sort of fear/toxic stress-induced freeze state since I was roughly eight years old. I'm 25 now. I know the only way to make it stop is to move out of my parents' house, but I'd need to get unstuck FIRST in order to start making enough money to even do that. It's a paradox. It's gone on way too long. It's not for lack of motivation on my part, because there are so many things I wanna do, and I can't do any of them until I'm out of here. I think my body is addicted to the stress, and as a result, I'm afraid of doing good things that will make my life better for me. I'm constantly fighting myself, and I lose no matter what. What tf should I do?

Laurel Golding

I have a friend that I'm realizing never saw me as a person, in fact alot of them! I wanna scarem and cry and tell them how bad it makes me feel. but they don't care, I've told them how it upsets me meny a time, and no effort is put in. it sucks and I don't know what to do, I'm scared of making new friends because I don't want this to happen again! what do?!!!!!

Jeff Brower

I'm finishing Improv 101 at UCB, and I'm having a hard time coming up with ideas. I get on stage and my mind is completely blank. I'm doing fine reacting to scenes, just not initiating. Am I simply not cut out for this, or is this something that might come with more practice? I love being there, but I don't feel adequate.

Robin

All my life people have seen me as the best friend type rather than the "someone you want to fuck" type. I get called cute and endearing a lot, but never hot or sexy. How do I stop being cute and start being sexy?

Lauren
>>186127774

I hope you don't mind someone else reaching out. It's just, your situation sounds very similar to mine. I said I was "stuck in a rut" for years and that moving out of my parents' house was the only answer. Except I've never been able to hold down a job and afford an apartment. And not for lack of motivation. I had/have all the motivation in the world. And even though I've now been living on my own for a few years (with my parents' help), I'm still stuck. But it's in a different way. I was only able to convince my dad to help me get a place after my psychiatrist said having my own space was necessary to heal from a decade of ongoing sensory overload and sleep deprivation. So I did that. And I did, in fact, heal. But now that I'm all caught up on rest, the isolation hits REALLY hard and I'm still frozen. Only now it's because I feel an overwhelming sense of loneliness. Now I can't do any of the things I want so desperately to do because I'm stuck feeling depressed rather than burned out. I'm still learning how to navigate. I don't think you're addicted to the stress; I think you may be experiencing some kind of executive dysfunction. Whether it's burnout induced or anxiety related or something else. And I just wonder if you've ever seen a professional for ADHD or some other kind of neurodivergence? Not that it's cheap or easy to do so. I know. 🥺

Rae Robertson

I w been considering going on testosterone (I'm trans) for three months now and I finally decided to do it but I thought it would take a while to get on it. I talked to a doctor today and they basically said "alright let's get you on testosterone" and prescribed me testosterone and I have an appointment to get injected on Tuesday. I suddenly feel really stressed. I didn't think it would happen this soon. I already made the decision but now I'm second guessing myself and don't know what to do.

Kiya Ritchie

How do I gain the courage to pursue a creative career? I got my degree in engineering even though I realized about 2 weeks into my freshman year that I’d be much happier doing something artistic. I got an engineering job right when I graduated, and now suddenly I’m 25 and still doing something I realized I didn’t want to do when I was 18. What I have now is stable and the “smart” thing to do, but I think caring about my work is more important to me than that stability. If I wait much longer I’ll be building a resume toward something I don’t even want :/ How do you get over what you “should” do and let yourself go toward what attracts you?

Hailey Hurd

How do I get over my introversion and make friends in my new city?

Hannahkin Skywalker
>>186265595

I was going to ask a very similar question! I’m going to moving around a lot next year, not staying in a city longer than 2 months but I want to push myself to make friends and be social

murf

How to properly say no to people who rely on you, so that they do not push and push more?

DragonX

Here is my question: are you not glad of your banana yes or no?

Literally nobody

Hey I am a humble woodcutter who recently married my second wife. She is beautiful and doesn’t work. We have been struggling to make ends meet because we live so far from civilisation (I built my house in the woods because I need to be in the woods to cut them) and my wife has made an ultimatum: either we send of the children into the woods or she will leave me. My two children are not very beautiful and they always whine because she hits them with the stick. My wife is very beautiful so I am thinking of taking my two children into the forest with one roll of bread so they don’t die immediately and then leaving them there. Do you have any recommendations? Ps there’s probably not a witch in the woods in a gingerbread cottage so it’s lowkey fine I think